Someone once told me that mums are only as good as they can be, not as good as they want to be.
I’m not a perfect mum. But I hope my kids will read this article some day and they will appreciate that I’ve tried to understand them and I’ve always loved them for who they are.
My children. Number one, two and three.
Have you ever heard that every child is different? Oh, of course, you hear it from every side. Especially if you’re expecting or you’ve just had your second baby. But I don’t think everyone fully understands what does it mean. It’s only us, parents of more-than-one child who gets to the root of it. It took you months to figure out what works and what doesn’t for your firstborn and suddenly, nothing of it works for the second one. Subsequently, third one is again completely different from the first two. In general you can say, that no matter how many children you have, every single one of them will surprise you in his/her own special way. The only difference is that more children you have, faster you come up with a new idea to try and see if it works in certain situation.
My child number one
It’s my only daughter. My first baby – baby of my dreams. My beautiful princess. She’s very creative, intelligent, enthusiastic, her teacher says she’s a typical sanguinic. Outgoing and almost always happy. Caring and emphatic. Ready to help. When she was a baby, she always went from 0 to 100 with crying. Happy one second, screaming the next. She had to have what she wanted right away, no waiting. She’s very curious, has to know everything that is going on around her, nothing escapes her attention. She loves company, as many people around as possible. She got well ahead all developmental tables for her age from the very beginning. Constantly showing progress in learning and desire to learn more. Her ability to come up with possible solution to any problem amazes me every day. Her organizational skills are exceptional too. She has musical ear and loves dancing. She can produce unbelievable amount of masterpieces with her art and craft sets. She was only 12 months old when I was told by her teacher in creche that she was very creative. I have no idea how she noticed it that early on, but it’s so true. Older she gets, more creative she is. I hope it’ll stay with her all her life and she will find a good use for it – to bring more happiness to this world.
My child number two
It’s my first son. I don’t know how or why, but it feels like we won this baby as a jackpot in a lottery. You cannot imagine better baby than he is or than he ever was. Quiet, calm, happy, full of smiles. Cuddly as a koala bear. If anyone told me that baby like this existed when I had my first one, I would honestly not believe it. No way. He didn’t cry, he was just always happy. Watching his big sister play, playing by himself or with us. He is a perfectionist which leads to being “jumper” in learning. He’s not showing any interest in learning or any progress until he’s perfected the skill in his head. Then he starts doing new thing “out of a blue,” literally from one day to another. He’s very sensitive, needs to feel confident before he opens up. He’s an observer and being with other people or kids makes him happy. He’s very nice to others, great at sharing. His generosity is outstanding for a child as little as he is now (4y). He’s very focused when he’s doing something. He likes order, routine and familiar environment. His social skills are exceptional, he is and always was very good at communication, even though he didn’t start talking until 3,5yo. He has great attention to details. He loves nature, animals, plants, flowers, it’s amazing to see how happy those things make him every day.
My child number three
It’s my second son. This baby is my greatest wish that I have not always believed it can come true. He’s strong willed and very determined. He knows what he wants and won’t stop until he gets it. He’s been like this from the day he was born. Or even before that. Example: He didn’t like doctor’s check ups when he was in my tummy and he let doctors know about it. It was almost impossible to listen to his heart beat as he kept pushing the doppler away. He can be very patient and persistent. He’s also funny. You might say that every little child is doing funny things (which is true), but we have never laughed as much in our house as we do since he’s around. He’s also a “next level” of everything we’ve known before with our first two children, doing things they never did, in a new way or coming up with something extra special making us say “Wow, where does he get it from?” He’s very happy and energetic. He’s our littlest explorer, high-spirited, doing everything his way. He loves singing and can pick up new melodies fast. He’s still very little (less than 2yo) and I can’t wait to get to know him better when he gets older.
Every human being is unique and uniquely perfect. Every child is a gift. Mum can sense her baby’s personality when she’s expecting and she can clearly say some basic characteristics within first few hours after the baby’s born. From this day on, mum’s biggest challenge is to cherish her little blossom and help her to grow everyday retaining all her beauty and discovering her full potential.